Three weeks ago, my 17-year old daughter was the object of a severe bullying attack by several of her best friends.
She considers these kids her family and so do we. We love them like family, minister to them when the need arises and eat hundreds of pizzas.
They are all Christians doing ministry together.
My beautiful girl (in blue) doing what she loves the most! None of these kids are involved in the situation.
Have you ever been hurt by people you’ve shared everything with?
If so, you know the pain and suffering she’s enduring – WE are enduring. When one member of God’s family hurts, we all do.
Gossip is an age-old problem and our situation began with an “innocent lie” (no such thing) between a guy and girl. My daughter took part in the lie in a misguided attempt to spare someone’s feelings. Then someone lied to another person, and the offended party learned about it through gossip.
It was the spark that lit a wildfire of lies, accusations and slander. Despite her confession and begging forgiveness, her name and reputation is ruined (for now).
According to the Bible, gossip is a sin and causes all kinds of strife. In fact the Apostle Paul writes about it in his letter to the Corinthians. He says, “For I am afraid that when I come I won’t like what I find, and you won’t like my response. I am afraid that I will find quarreling, jealousy, anger, selfishness, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorderly behavior.” 2 Corinthians 12:20
She got caught up in the middle of a gossip triangle that sucked her in and spiraled out of control.
Life is full of hard lessons and while attempts at forgiveness and restoration are finally being made, the damage is permanent.
Yesterday in my quiet time, I read from My Utmost For His Highest and the wisdom is a perfect fit. The author, Oswald Chambers says, “Jesus Christ never trusted human nature, yet He was never cynical nor suspicious, because He had absolute trust in what He could do for human nature.”
In my next post, I’ll write about the lessons we’ve learned from this fiasco. I hope it helps you keep your kids from being sucked into a gossip triangle.
With love and peace, Erika