Persistence in the midst of resistance

By Erika Rizkallah

Well, so much for blogging every day. In a recent post I wrote about resistance and it got the better of me last week. I’m in the midst of a bad fibro flare and though I wanted to write, I couldn’t.

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The skin on my head was so excruciating even my hair hurt. My face swelled up and I had to “wear” a cold pack. Worst of all, I couldn’t think of anything but the pain.

I was also scheduled to go away for the weekend for a five-year reunion with some of my best friends and I rested for several days so I could go – and I did!

So, it’s back to the drawing writing board for me. In the words of B.F. Skinner, “A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.”

 

Relationship Challenges

By Erika Rizkallah

Have you ever heard of NaNoWriMo? November is National Novel Writing Month and NaNoWriMo is a movement and challenge to write and finish a novel in 30 days. I was thinking about working on my middle grade adventure novel when I discovered the bloggers equivalent of the challenge.

It’s called NaBloPoMo so you’ll be hearing from me more frequently – as in every day. I’ve never blogged daily but I need to be challenged in areas other than relationships.

Creating posts and managing healthy relationships are both difficult but blogging stretches and challenges my mind, whereas relationship drama tends to shut me down. Unlike a blog, I can’t just stop communicating (though at times, I certainly want to).

I swear I sometimes wish I could hide.

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Like blogging, relationship building requires good and consistent communication. But what do you do when people get stubborn, cranky and negative? What do you do when bedroom doors slam shut and phone calls and questions go ignored?

I’ve decided to take a month off of arguing and debating with people and let everyone – including me – have their space. Instead I’ll be blogging and doing my best to keep a quiet mouth and spirit at home.

I love the quote below

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